First and foremost, I
need to acknowledge the brave gift that several thousand volunteer research
couples have contributed to my understanding. Their willingness to reveal the
most private aspects of their personal lives has opened a hitherto closed door
that has made it possible to construct these Seven Principles for making
marriages work.
This book was based on
research that received continuous support from the National Institute of Mental
Health, the Behavioural Science Research Branch. Of great assistance was the
dedicated guidance of Molly Olive ri, Delia Hahn, and Joy Schulterbrandt.
This book was also made
possible by a number of important collaborations that have been a joyful part
of my life. These include the main collaboration that has graced my life for
the past nineteen years with Professor Robert Levenson of the University of
California. Also important to me has been my collaboration with NeilJacob son
of the University of Washington and my work with Dr. Laura Carstensen of
Stanford University I have been blessed with rich associations inside my
laboratory.
The cornerstones have
been Sharon Fentiman, whose elegance greatly improves my life and keeps me from
chaos; Dr. Sybil Cart ere, who runs my lab and is a terrific colleague; and
Cathryn Swan son, my programmer and data analyst. Not only are they friends and
intellectual companions, but they help make coming to work a pleasant
experience. I also wish to acknowledge the contributions and stimulation of
Lynn Katz.
My wife, Julie Schwartz
Gottman, provided love, friendship, motivation, intellectual camaraderie,
support, and conceptual organization. She has also been my teacher and guide in
practicing psychotherapy. She made doing the couples' and parents' workshops an
exciting creative experience. While we are busy with our full-time jobs, Etana
Dykan capably runs our Seattle Marital and Family Institute with great spirit
and attention to detail, and she also helps facilitate our communication. Her
amazingly creative brother, Shai Steinberg, has also been a tremendous asset in
many areas of our work. Linda Wright helps us keep the couples' enterprise very
warm and human--she is unusually gifted in talking to desperate couples.
Peter Langsam has been
our faithful consultant and partner throughout, helping us with wise counsel,
elemental guidance, and business sense.
I have recently been
blessed with excellent students and staff, including Kim Buehlman, Jim Coan,
Melissa Hawkins, Carole Hooven, Vanessa Kahen, Lynn Katz, Michael Lorber, Kim
McCoy, Janni Morford, Sonny Ruckstahl, Regina Rushe, Kimberly Ryan, Alyson
Shapiro, Tim Stickle, and Beverly Wilson.
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